Is
Your Home an Islaamic Home?
And Allah
has made for you in your homes a place of rest...
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This may seem like an
unusual question and your automatic response may be "Why, of course my home is
an Islaamic Home!! My family is Muslim and that makes our home a Muslim
one!!"
Go through this short
checklist to determine if your response should really be in the
affirmative.
Always
Chose a Good Spouse:
There are several
Hadeeths that highlight the importance of choosing a righteous and pious spouse.
The wisdom of this is obvious: a pious spouse is more likely to bring happiness
and contentment to the other spouse and the couple together will be more able to
build a righteous family and home life. This is the foundation of the
home.
Always
Guide your Spouse:
This begins with each
spouse fulfilling the duties and
responsibilities of their roles and treating each other with kindness
and compassion. It then goes beyond this to include guidance in other spiritual
matters such as striving to strengthen Eemaan; paying attention to Worship and correcting it when needed; encouraging the reading of Quraan, praying at night, giving
charity, and reading books on Islaam; helping to choose pious friends; enjoining
goodness and forbidding evil. Emaan is something that may increase or
decrease so it is necessary to
continually focus on increasing our own and that of
our spouse.
Make your
Home a Place for Remembrance of Allah:
Remembrance can be in
many forms: with the heart, with the tongue, through prayer, recitation of
Quraan, memorizing adhkaar and using them, discussing Islaamic issues, or
reading Islaamic material. These are things that should occur on a consistent
basis so that the angels will come to the home and bring Allah's blessings. The
Rasool Allah (SAW), said: "The example of a home in which Allah is remembered
and the example of a home in which Allah is not remembered, is like comparing
the living and the dead." (Muslim).
Make your
Home a Place of Worship:
This means that Salaah is
established within the home at its required time and that members of the family
pray in congregation when several are present. The family may also designate a
specific area for prayer and maintain its
uniqueness and cleanliness. For women, it is better to pray each prayer
within the home. For men, it is recommended to pray voluntary prayers at home
after having prayed obligatory prayers in the Masjid. The Rasool Allah (SAW),
said: "The voluntary prayer in the home is better than the voluntary prayer with
the people. It is like the obligatory prayer of the man in congregation being
better than praying the obligatory
by himself." (Sahih al-Jaami). This is to ensure that homes are made places of
worship just as the Masjid.
Regularly
recite Quraan to Keep Shaitaan Away:
The Messenger of Allah,
sallallahu alayhe wasallam, said: "Recite Surat Al-Baqarah in your houses, for
the Satan does not enter a house in which Surat Al-Baqarah is recited." (Sahih
al-Jaami). He also said: "When you go to your bed, recite Ayatul Kursi: 'Allah!
There is no god but Him, the Ever-Living, the One Who Sustains and Protects all
that exists', to the end, for then there will remain over you a guardian from
Allah, and Shaitaan will not come near you until morning."
(Bukhari).
Make
Teaching and Learning are Ongoing Activities in your
Home:
This is primarily responsibility of the head of the household who must ensure that he is
guiding his family to the correct path,
enjoining them to do good, and forbidding them from evil. Attaining knowledge is
incumbent upon all members of the family and is the basis upon which Emaan will
flourish, a study circle should be established in the home that covers the
various areas in Islaam and from which all family members will benefit Children
should especially be encouraged to participate since this will establish a
pattern for them that will be carried throughout their
lifetimes.
Have an
Islaamic Library at your Home:
This may include such
things as books, cassette tapes, and
CDs. It is important to
choose accurate and reliable material
that will benefit the members of the family. There should be a variety of
materials to cover all age levels and language needs of those in the home.
Arabic material is definitely a must since everyone in the family should either
know or be learning to read the language of the Quraan. Books should cover a
variety of topics, be properly organized, and be easily accessible. Audiotapes
and CDs may include Quraan recitation, lectures, khutbahs, and tapes for
children containing supplications, reminders of Islaamic manners, and nasheeds
(religious songs with no musical instruments). Family members should encourage
one another to use these materials on a regular basis, and should be shared with
other Muslim families who may be in need of them.
Try to
Have Morals and Manners Like Rasool Allah (SAW):
The Rasool Allah (SAW),
said; "When Allah wills some good towards the people of a household. He
introduces kindness among them." (Ahmad, Sahih al-Jaami). He also said: "Allah
loves kindness and rewards it in such a way the He does not reward for harshness
or for anything else." (Muslim). There are many examples of the Rasool Allah
(SAW)'s kindness and good treatment toward his family that we should try to
emulate. He was affectionate and playful with his wives and children and would
help with household chores to case the burden for his wives. Following his
example will bring tranquility to the home and help to truly make it an abode of
rest.
Must Know
the Islaamic Rulings That Pertain to Houses:
Such as guarding the
secrets of the home, seeking permission to enter, not looking into other
people's homes, not allowing children to enter the parent's bedroom during
certain times of the day, and not staying alone overnight. This last one is
interesting to consider since some husbands travel for their business or work.
The Rasool Allah (SAW), actually discouraged this. Ibn Umar reported that the
Rasool Allah (SAW) forbade being alone and said that a man should not stay
overnight alone or travel alone (Ahmad). Not only will he be alone, but also his
wife and children are likely to be left alone in the home without any protection
or companionship.
Invite
Righteous and Knowledgeable People to your Home:
"My Lord! Forgive me, and
my parents, and him who enters my home as a believer, and all the believing men
and women." [71:28]. Righteous people who enter your home will bring many
benefits due to their presence and conversations with them. They are more likely
to discuss useful topics and may be excellent sources of information and
knowledge. We should always make du'aa that Allah will bless us with righteous
friends since they can have such positive effects on us. The Rasool Allah (SAW),
said: "Keep company with a believer only, and let your food be eaten only by the
righteous." (Abu Dawud, Tirmithi).
No Evils
Within your Home:
Television (except
possibly for educational programs) and unlawful music are not allowed in the
house; pictures on the wall do not contain animate beings; there are no statues
or anything that resembles statues; dogs are not present in the house; smoking
is not allowed; decorations are kept simple to avoid excessiveness; the
telephone is used for beneficial purposes and not harmful ones (such as
gossiping or backbiting); when people come to visit, the men and women sit
separately. The effects of these evils on the sanctity of the home should be
obvious. For example, the Rasool Allah (SAW), said: "Angels do not enter a house
which has either a dog or a picture in it." (Bukhari).
The
Physical Aspects of the Home are Conducive to Fulfilling
Religious
Obligations:
Obligations:
It is best for the home to be close to a Masjid so that it will be easier for men to attend the prayers in congregation and for all family members to visit the Masjid for lectures, study groups, and social gatherings. It is also advisable to find an area where other Muslims live to obtain the benefits of community. One should definitely be careful about close neighbors and avoid those who are obviously immoral. When choosing a house, consideration should be made regarding the availability of separate sitting areas for men and women. The house should be spacious and fulfill safety and health requirements.
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